It’s completely normal to feel low, or even to feel OK one day and terrible the next. Give yourself time to recover from the shock of it and to get used to a different routine. It may help to have someone you can talk to, whether that is a partner, a close friend, a church leader or your GP. This can give you the space you need to get your feelings out and process them in a safe environment. You may need extra medical help or prayer support at this time, so don’t be embarrassed to let people help you.
Find some distractions
You may not have another role to walk into right away but try to avoid sitting around dwelling on your circumstances day in, day out. Hang out with friends or indulge in a hobby that has been neglected recently. Explore some new music or try out some exciting recipes. Write a journal or get some DIY jobs done in your home. Study the Bible or lose yourself in a good novel. Enjoy some fun activities with your kids. Have a target for each day so you feel like you’ve achieved something worthwhile.
Look after yourself
Feeling down can lead to self-neglect, but it’s really important that you take care of yourself at this time. Get plenty of sleep and take regular exercise. Grab a shower and get spruced up, even if you’re not going anywhere special. Eat healthy food and stay hydrated. Try to lay off the sugar, caffeine and alcohol, which will only give you a short-term buzz.
Learn a new skill
If you have a bit of extra time on your hands, why not use it to gain some new skills or experience? This will help to keep your mind occupied and may give your confidence a boost. Who knows what useful contacts you might make, not to mention new friends? Best of all, you might find that you can tick an extra box when it comes to applying for a new role.
Do some volunteering
Nothing lifts the mood like helping others, so why not try your hand at volunteering? Again, you might meet some interesting and influential people, but best of all you’ll be using your time and abilities to benefit someone else. This could potentially lead to a paid opportunity or give you something fresh to add to your CV.
Start thinking about a new job
You may need time to adjust before applying for new roles, but when you’re feeling up to it, start considering your options. Is there a comparable role elsewhere, or do you fancy going for something completely different? Bring your CV up to date and keep an open mind as you browse the job sites. Get your partner or friends to help you look or to read through your applications, and don’t get discouraged if you don’t find a new job right away. Pray that God will open the right door at just the right time, and that he will meet your needs in the meantime.